I think I speak for everyone when I say that, at the end of the day, all we really want is just to be happy.
Happy people live longer – this is a fact. You can quote me. I also truly believe in the law of attraction, which essentially means that the happier you are and the more positive energy you put out into the world, the more positivity you will attract. So happy people live happy lives, and negative people, well… they don’t!
I am quite a naturally bubbly, outgoing person, but even I have my moments. It’s impossible to be happy all the time, I accept that, but it is important to make time to be happy. Recently, I’ve been working on changing my mind-set in order to let myself be happy more often.
I’ve come up with six rules for happiness, which I have been following for a while now, and I’m really noticing a difference. So, I want to share with you how I’ve been doing it, because I think everyone deserves to feel happy.
- When you wake up, decide to have a good day.
This has been a big one for me. There often used to be days when I’d wake up to the sound of my alarm and the first thing I’d do was sigh. It was 6.30am and I’d already had enough! Some days that can be how you feel, but I’ve decided not to allow myself to wake up and feel negative. Every day we have a choice to make – to be happy or not. And for me, it is in the first few moments that the fate of the rest of my day is decided. I now wake up and no matter what, I decide to be happy and have a good day. It sounds so simple but this has been having such a noticeable effect on my quality of life! So make sure you wake up with a smile and not a sigh, I promise it will get you off to a good start!
- Don’t dwell.
I am the worst for this! If something ‘bad’ happens to me – if my train is cancelled or I have a disagreement with my boyfriend, I tend to let it consume me and ruin the rest of my day. Nothing can snap me back out of that bad mood! But recently, I’ve been trying to stop this. I’ve been actively telling myself that just because one thing has gone wrong for me, it’s not a bad omen. I can still have a good day! Dwelling doesn’t achieve anything – you can’t undo what’s been done and sulking about it is only going to make you feel worse. There is literally no point in letting something small ruin the whole of the rest of your day. So I’ve been letting things go a lot more, and I’ve really been enjoying it! This one is tough sometimes, but once you’ve mastered it you’ll find a lot more time to be happy.
- Surround yourself with positivity.
It’s so important to make sure that you are surrounded by positivity. If this means cutting out negative people from your life, then so be it. It can be difficult, and might cause you to lose a few friends along the way. But I’m a firm believer that a few good friends are worth a thousand shitty ones. If anyone is making you feel bad, or feel like you can’t achieve something, or that you’re not worth much, the best thing to do is cut them completely out of your life. As dramatic as it sounds, you cannot possibly expect to be happy if the people you spend all your time with aren’t making you happy. I’ve cut quite a lot of negative people out over the years, and I’m now left with a bunch of beautiful, happy and positive people who I absolutely love spending time with. I’d recommend this to anyone!
- Be grateful for the little things.
It’s easy to get carried away and think that your life is over because something trivial hasn’t gone your way. In times like this, I have found it’s important to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Sure, I may not have got exactly what I wanted. But I have my health. There are people out there that are praying for good health, and here I am taking it for granted! Getting this perspective helps me realise how fortunate I really am, and makes the bad things seem very, very small. Now that I am grateful for the small things and not overlooking them anymore, I find that I’m happy with the simple things, and anything on top of these is just a nice bonus.
- Stop trying to please everyone.
This is a big one for me – I am a self-professed people pleaser! I used to worry so much about other people and making sure that everyone around me was happy, that I’d end up neglecting my own happiness! And while I still try to please people when I can (it’s nice to be nice!) I have realised recently that you can never please everyone. So there’s no point trying! Just make sure that you are happy with your decisions, and the rest will follow.
- Embrace YOLO!
As cliché as it is, you do only live once! I watched a motivational speech video and, call me dramatic, it changed my whole outlook on life. Since then, I’ve been really embracing the fact that life is short, and we only get one shot at it. I’ve given up worrying about what people might think or say about me, and started doing what I want to do. I don’t want to have regrets when I’m older. I want to be able to say that I lived my life to the full. If you can truly accept and embrace the fact that you only live once, I promise your outlook on life will change, and as a consequence you’ll live a much happier life.
So, there you have it!
I hope my rules help you to live a little bit happier.